When you are feeling anxious, stressed, out-of-sort, e.g., an unpleasant encounter with a co-worker, or a boss, on a piece of paper, indicate a number from one to 10, as to how stressed you feel. Assigning a number communicates to your brain what kind of stressor it is. Let's say you had a stressful conversation with a spouse/partner or child, and you don't want to continue it because you might say something you can't take back. Assign whatever # you believe it is.
If it's a 7, then you are letting your body know that you have the reserve to relax. It it's a 10, curl your toes and scrunch your face, hold for 5 seconds and release as you exhale.