Let's face it. Fighting with your partner/spouse is bound to happen; however, cursing, screaming, threatening, door slamming, bringing up a laundry-list of your partner's faults may seem like you're getting it off your chest, but, it does not help the relationship and it really doesn't get you anywhere. "I just get so upset; I just let-loose," I have heard expressed in a number of ways each resulting in the same outcome.
That's not to say you have to agree with words or behavior that you find distressing. Couples can negotiate. Couples can criticize, but there is a correct way and a hurtful/harmful way.
Next blog entry, I will detail some steps that I instruct couples in my practice to utilize when conflict in their relationship arises. For now, please know that having a healthy relationship is a goal we should all strive for. And by dealing with these blips in a supportive manner will, actually, strengthen your relationship.
That's not to say you have to agree with words or behavior that you find distressing. Couples can negotiate. Couples can criticize, but there is a correct way and a hurtful/harmful way.
Next blog entry, I will detail some steps that I instruct couples in my practice to utilize when conflict in their relationship arises. For now, please know that having a healthy relationship is a goal we should all strive for. And by dealing with these blips in a supportive manner will, actually, strengthen your relationship.
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