That's not to say you have to agree with words or behavior that you find distressing. Couples can negotiate. Couples can criticize, but there is a correct way and a hurtful/harmful way.
Next blog entry, I will detail some steps that I instruct couples in my practice to utilize when conflict in their relationship arises. For now, please know that having a healthy relationship is a goal we should all strive for. And by dealing with these blips in a supportive manner will, actually, strengthen your relationship.