I've been waiting in this line for 1/2 hr. Do I move to another one if it looks like it's going faster?
When do you know whether you should stay the course, or throw in the towel?
When is it the right time to trust your intuition, or perhaps, trust others, with their thought on the matter?
#1 - Consult your financial planner
#2 - Trust your gut
Of course, you are not going to find an expert on which line should you be in, nor should your friend or family member(s) be placed in the position to advise you on your relationship/marriage. Give it a fair chance. Find a therapist that you can BOTH relate to. One who instills confidence in the plan to work on the aspects which need working-on. Key to all of this: When one or both of you become emotionally-detached, take time to THINK, REFLECT, DISCUSS, TRY VERY HARD TO TAKE YOUR PARTNER'S POINT OF VIEW, EXAMINE HER/HIS STRENGTHS, and then seek the assistance of a Couples Counselor to "partner" with the both of you to help guide you on making the right decision for you.