Unlike Flower Power, relationship power indicates that one partner has an unfair advantage. 100% giving and 100% receiving is unfair on both ends. Giving and receiving doesn't have to be equal, but it does have to be fair. What is key is that you stand up for yourself, making certain that you're heard. If you do not feel you're being heard, what do you do? Then, you have to negotiate, stating your case and expressing your desires. " What I believe is fair that if I do the shopping, meal prep, cooking, then, I would appreciate if you would do the entire cleanup before we go to bed. That would make me feel that you appreciate and honor the work I do." Caveat: Know what you're going to say before you have this discussion. If the discussion goes south, take a break (minimum of a 1/2 hour) before resuming. Good luck!
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