To drive a car, there's a manual that needs to be studied, practice runs with an instructor, a permit, a test, and then and only then does one obain a license to drive.
On the other hand, take $80. down to City Hall and bingo, a marriage license. No instruction, No study, No mentoring,
But who is that person that you are spending time? Does he believe in 50/50? Does she value who you are and what you do? Is he giving and generous and treating you fairly, honorably and loving? Does she hear you, respect you. And, will this remain until death do you part?
Couples counseling isn't just for married people. Two people are considering make a commitment with each other should have an objective 3rd person Professional sit with the two of you and help you navigate the journey of a long-term relationship. Before the engagement, engage a therapist. They will provide you with a safe place to facilitate conversation to discuss and better understand the belief systems each of you have about very important life topics.